I am not voyeuristic in general. I know that bad things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people. I don’t take delight or joy or experience diversion by focusing on the downside of the human condition.
Thus, I don’t rubber neck on the freeway when there’s an accident. I never participated in the parental gossip in the parking lot awaiting the dismissal of my children.
I”m far from perfect but I don’t want to contribute to the dark side.
This NFL physical/domestic abuse story has proven me to be otherwise. I watched the video, more than once. I’ve watched the commentary and listened to the talk show programs who are rightfully, all over this.
I am a HUGE football fan. When I was growing up, which will help explain how seasoned I am as a woman on this planet, I had both the NFL and the AFL pennants hanging from the ceiling of my bedroom.
I would watch THE (there was only one game broadcast on television each week) Sunday game at 1pm PDT with my father and his buddies in our cigar, smoke filled family room. I was the only female present.
I knew the game, I loved the game, I would get tears in my eyes after a player tackled an opposing team mate and he would pull up the other team’s player and give his butt a slap.
This was football at its finest. This was the NFL in its heyday. Not that there weren’t problems.
Lance Rentzel comes to mind. Chuck Muncie as well. The players weren’t perfect, they were human beings. But this act of domestic violence has me recoiling and revolted.
And for the NFL to respond so meekly and then deny they’ve seen the video of the incident, now I’m truly ashamed.
I have experienced abuse in my relationships. I’m not proud. It takes two to tango. I stuck around longer than I should have, longer than I would want my daughter to, longer than any woman should have. I’ve been there.
It is sick behavior. It is depraved behavior. It is aberrant behavior but it exists and we need to excise it out of our society.
Please do not judge. Please have compassion. Please understand that there are varying degrees of reasonable people making unreasonable choices – that would be the victims that I’m referring to.