Drs. Chuck and JoAnn Bird, board certified clinical sexologists

Drs. Chuck & JoAnn Bird

Please join Maria as she has a conversation with Drs. Chuck and JoAnn Bird who are Board Certified Clinical Sexologists, licensed mental health counselors who are also sex therapists.  Drs. Chuck and JoAnn Bird talk about their professions and how they help various clients with couples counseling and coaching, discernment counseling, workshops for couples, individual therapy and sex therapy.

You may be asking what is sex therapy? Sex therapy is a specialized form of therapy that focuses on intimacy and sexual concerns or issues. It is a solution-focused therapy designed to reach goals that are established by those seeking services. Sex Therapy consists of discussions in the therapists’ office, along with special exercises designed to make you feel more relaxed in your sexual interactions. These exercises are practiced by the individual or couple in the privacy of their own home. At no time does it involve clients performing sexual acts in front of the therapist or sexual contact between the therapist and clients. The goal of sex therapy is to maximize one’s potential for satisfaction, pleasure and happiness.
Because Drs. Bird practice in the state of Florida these are the requirements that they have to meet for their state. A licensed therapist who has specialized training in Sexology (the science of sexual behavior) and the diagnosis and treatment of sexual issues/concerns. A licensed therapist must meet the State of Florida requirements (additional education/training and supervision) to be called a Sex Therapist. A Sexologist is a clinician that holds a doctoral degree (Ph.D.) in the field of Sexology.
Sex therapy is for people of all ages, gender, and sexual orientation, who have sexual concerns or want to improve their quality of life by dealing with sexual issues. Sex therapy is for individuals or couples.
If you are in a relationship and are both available to see a sex therapist, that is highly recommended. No matter which one of you feels “responsible” or “blamed” for the problem, it is a problem that both of you are experiencing. It has become a “couples problem”. If you, as a couple, are interested in having a satisfying sex life, you will benefit from being in sex therapy together.

Hotter than a witch’s . . .

138 degrees

We here in Southern California are embroiled (pun intended) in not only a record setting drought but a heat wave that is nearly indescribable. Yesterday was most likely the hottest day ever recorded for the day/date/area.
I have captured a picture of the thermostat from my car. The day before my thermometer read 118 degrees.
Our water district has restricted the days and times that we are allowed to have our irrigation systems on. We are limited to three days a week, never on a Sunday as well as the specific times that the systems can be used.
My landscaping is fairly drought tolerant but under these constraints it is languishing and looking pretty unsightly.
I also have a pool and the heat is creating such evaporation that it has to be filled frequently.
The following lyrics are from a Bruno Mars song, “It Will Rain.” I am asking for the good of the order and for the well being of our planet, would someone jettison their relationship so that we can have rain? I’d offer to take one for the team but alas, I don’t have a significant other!
So I’m asking for those of you who do, would you please dump them for the rest of us and our climate challenged communities? You can always get another one but we cannot heal our world as quickly if what Bruno Mars has sung about would come to pass!
“‘Cause there’ll be no sunlight
If I lose you, baby
There’ll be no clear skies
If I lose you, baby
Just like the clouds
My eyes will do the same, if you walk away
Everyday it will rain!
And if someone has a better idea, please share. Whatever it takes. We have to get rid of this heat and get lots and lots of precipitation.
Again, I’d fall on the sword but I am not in a relationship.

@BrunoMars; @MariaSanchezSho

Ray Rice – Go to Hell!

Ray Rice

I am not voyeuristic in general. I know that bad things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people. I don’t take delight or joy or experience diversion by focusing on the downside of the human condition.
Thus, I don’t rubber neck on the freeway when there’s an accident. I never participated in the parental gossip in the parking lot awaiting the dismissal of my children.
I”m far from perfect but I don’t want to contribute to the dark side.
This NFL physical/domestic abuse story has proven me to be otherwise. I watched the video, more than once. I’ve watched the commentary and listened to the talk show programs who are rightfully, all over this.
I am a HUGE football fan. When I was growing up, which will help explain how seasoned I am as a woman on this planet, I had both the NFL and the AFL pennants hanging from the ceiling of my bedroom.
I would watch THE (there was only one game broadcast on television each week) Sunday game at 1pm PDT with my father and his buddies in our cigar, smoke filled family room. I was the only female present.
I knew the game, I loved the game, I would get tears in my eyes after a player tackled an opposing team mate and he would pull up the other team’s player and give his butt a slap.
This was football at its finest. This was the NFL in its heyday. Not that there weren’t problems.
Lance Rentzel comes to mind. Chuck Muncie as well. The players weren’t perfect, they were human beings. But this act of domestic violence has me recoiling and revolted.
And for the NFL to respond so meekly and then deny they’ve seen the video of the incident, now I’m truly ashamed.
I have experienced abuse in my relationships. I’m not proud. It takes two to tango. I stuck around longer than I should have, longer than I would want my daughter to, longer than any woman should have. I’ve been there.
It is sick behavior. It is depraved behavior. It is aberrant behavior but it exists and we need to excise it out of our society.
Please do not judge. Please have compassion. Please understand that there are varying degrees of reasonable people making unreasonable choices – that would be the victims that I’m referring to.

@MariaSanchezShow; #RayRice

Facebook became my ‘friend’ in my time of need!

Mark ZuckerbergMost of us use Facebook for various reasons, not always alike. Connecting with friends, connecting with causes, connecting with celebrities, connecting with products and services.
However, an interesting thing happened to me recently with my ‘relationship’ with Facebook. I found myself in the Emergency Room of a hospital due to a friend’s medical situation. My time there was not planned. I rushed to be by her side as soon as I heard the news so I was unprepared for the hours and hours and hours that it took the physicians and medical staff to tend to her needs, get her body/health stabilized and ultimately, get her discharged.
Thus I found myself by myself as she slipped in and out of consciousness. I didn’t have a book or a newspaper. I didn’t have the use of a television. In short, I was stuck with nothing to do, no one to talk with and nothing to read.
Enter Facebook – I opened my Facebook account on my iPhone and suddenly a world opened up to me. Stories and posts that I might ordinarily have skipped over since I don’t usually have the luxury of having so much time to dawdle over everyone’s life events.
But on this day, at that moment, not only was I not going insane by simply being idle, I was able to delve and read and revel and shudder and cry at all of the humanity that were on those pages that folks took the time to share.
I know that it might sound trivial, or else you could ordinarily say, “get a life” but this time, at that moment, it was a life saver for me.
I was able to keep my vigil for my friend in her time of need and I was also able to fully relish the lives that others have and cared to share.
So in that instance, I realized what a life saver social media can be. It isn’t just bragging or being voyeuristic, for me it was a life line to the real world and it kept me company in my time of need.
Thank you Facebook and thank you all for sharing! Warmly, Maria

Friday, September 5th, 2014 – Love Coach

Bruce Starr

Are you out of your mind to be in love?  This question and more relationship advice is the subject of today’s conversation with the original Luv Coach, Bruce Starr.

Bruce started relationship advising and relationship socializing on the internet in 1993. This is a very revealing subject matter because it explores how and why we fail to thrive emotionally.

Join us and learn how to stop preventing ourselves from having love in our lives.

One of the first and most important steps that we can take in creating a loving relationship in our lives is to first love ourselves unconditionally with abundance and acceptance. Warts, blemishes, short comings, failings, all part of the human condition are also preventing us from attaining what we want in our lives.
After we agree to have self acceptance, to recognize that we need to love ourselves more and that we operate out of love as a basic essence, then we are able to love another unconditionally.
The next three steps should be to stop dating. Slow down. Stop rushing to find the next great love of our lives.
If we’ve given away all that we have to give and thus have an “empty pie plate” and most likely match up with someone else who also has an “empty pie plate” then we have nothing to give and nothing to receive.
Finally, meditation is important. Meditation will help keep us quiet and centered. It will help us to stop judging ourselves, to operate with kindness towards others and operate selfishly – as opposed to self centered.
Being selfish means that we are there for ourselves. Being self-centered means that we expect that the world will revolve around us.
Lastly, we should feel love and not think love. Find out more by listening now! Please feel free to contact us about additional topics you would like to explore and learn more about.

www.bodytraders.com

Changing the face of the world! Steven Svoboda

Maria & Steven Svoboda August 2014

At the Maria Sanchez Show, we try and focus as much as possible on good news. Oftentimes it isn’t so easy to do so. For whatever reason, the human condition appears to need stimulation and we find it in salacious, dramatic, tragic situations. Thus the rubber necking that occurs on our roadways when there is an accident.
This is why the media focuses on blood and guts. Either we have prurient interest or we want to be distracted so very much from our own existences that we focus on the horror.
Enter one of my idols, a man that I am proud to call a collaborator, and someone who is literally changing the way we look at an issue that was traditionally and socially acceptable – male circumcision.
When I first met Steven, I was working at an NPR affiliate as a talk show host and I brought him on the program to talk about female genital mutilation and what was occurring at that time in Africa.
In our conversation, Steven compared that atrocity with male circumcision. Of course I rebuffed his words and the concept as “our” circumcision in the United States is conducted by a mohel (a Jewish practitioner) or a physician, in clean, sanitary, well lit and controlled circumstances.
After all I argued, my father, my 2 brothers, my 3 sons and my ex-husband were all circumcised. That’s just what we do. That’s how ignorant I was at that time in my life.
Steven’s point to me then and to this day (we’re talking late ’90s) was, “genital mutilation is genital mutilation, regardless of the gender and the circumstances.”
That began a 15+ year of professional collaboration. I affectionately have called Steven our “Circumcision Correspondent” because he visits with us whenever circumcision is in the news.
The organization he founded 20+ years ago which is his passion to this day, Attorneys for the Rights of the Child, seeks to educate people, physicians, cultures, countries about surgically removing viable skin for cosmetic reasons. www.arclaw.org for more information.
Steven and I had never met in person. This picture of the two of us was taken last Friday, August 22 in Santa Monica, CA as we finally had an opportunity to speak to one another face to face.
I hope you’re helping to make this world a better place! Steven is a shining example of that.

Robin Williams – Rest In Peace

Robin WilliamsI was acquainted with Robin Williams in the early 1980’s.  At the time I was married to a stand up comedian and they were colleagues, if you will.  In those days comics honed their craft at either The Comedy Store or The Improv in Hollywood.  It was a legendary group of funny folks that banded together over a common passion.

It was inordinately composed of men, although there were a few women, and these brave, young, talented individuals were cutting their teeth on stage for a mere pittance.  Usually $25 a set, which lasted 5 to 10 to 30 minutes depending on when they were booked in the week and in what order they performed.

The camaraderie amongst these comics was exemplary.  They’d stand in the parking lot, shooting the shit, talking about their auditions, what comedy clubs they were booked in throughout the country, riffing with one another about the events of the day, sometimes working out a bit with one another and even giving each other a joke or two to have and claim as theirs while they waited for their set or thereafter.

Robin Williams was often in that parking lot waiting for his time to go on stage.  He was fairly famous already due to his role on “Mork and Mindy” and he was there not for the money (obviously) or the fame.  He was there because he loved to perform and the audiences loved him.

One of the things that I found curious about him aside from his brilliance and his frenetic energy was that we’d be having a conversation and his answers to my questions, while funny, ended up following him onto the stage that same evening.  Was he trying out his material on me or was he answering spontaneously and then taking it with him to the spotlight?

I never knew the truth, or shall I say, his truth?

To lose another brilliant, talented, gifted performer is truly a loss for all of us.  It gives real meaning to the term, “tortured artist.”

I spoke this afternoon with a man that is very involved with the mental health community.  He is not a physician but he has personal experience with mental illness and is active in the education and support of those that are in need of such tools. 

He told me that, “suicide is 100% preventable.”  While I find that difficult to believe, he knows better than most.  He says that there are signs, there are messages and that there is an opportunity to help prevent someone from choosing a permanent solution to a temporary situation.

Something to ponder upon as we mourn Robin Williams passing.  #RobinWilliams